Bit O’ Background

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you” – Mary Angelou

My name is Aisling and these are my mind memoirs.

I was always a bit on the anxious side, even as a child. When I was about 17 I got my first panic attack – I had no idea what it was or why I felt like I couldn’t breathe, I knew I just needed to escape, to run, to squirm away from the hands around my throat. For a long time I was so embarrassed and ashamed of the panic attacks, I felt weak and pathetic, dramatic and ridiculous. I feared what people thought of me, I wondered why I wasn’t strong and together like I believed everyone else was. I’m still learning to try and let the frustration at myself go after an episode of panic, to leave it behind and move on.

A few times in my life I have suffered from periods of overwhelming depression, including a spell in St. Patrick’s Mental Health Hospital in Dublin. Depression for me is like being transported to a whole other universe; it looks a lot like this one but it’s cold and oppressive and no one really wants me around. I feel like I’m a burden on everyone. I feel like a parasite and the only solution I can see is one that involves removing myself from the equation. I overwhelmingly feel a sense of loss and grief, for what, I’m not quite sure.

It is so important for people experiencing this to know they are cared about, wanted, important, worthy. Depression is not a weakness inherent to you alone, it is a human condition and can happen to anybody (some of the most admirable people who have walked and are currently walking this earth have suffered with mental health issues). You have just as much right as anyone else suffering to seek help and to want to be happy.

The first psychiatrist I ever attended wasn’t the right practitioner for me, which can be frustrating, but it was the start of a journey towards recovery. I attended quite a few doctors and therapists who I couldn’t relate to so the jouney thus far has had many ups, downs, set-backs and topsy-turvey loops. Medication was tried and it didn’t work but for some people it works wonders. Recovery isn’t always linear, in my experience it’s more like playing snakes and ladders which is why it’s so crucial to have support, a friend who understands and will listen, even if it’s just the number to the Samaritans saved in your phone.  Samaritans’ 24 hour Helpline Ireland: 116 123

Getting the right kind of help is not always easy but things are improving in the area of mental health, don’t give up, there are good therapists and services out there. If you don’t feel you are being listened to or understood find someone else, trust your gut on this, don’t doubt yourself, you’ll know if something is working for you or not. If you have a close family member or friend who can come with you to visit the GP or a therapist don’t feel you can’t accept their help, or don’t feel you can’t ask for it. The voice telling you not to put people out with your “silly little problem” is not reason, it’s the depression talking, everyone needs support from time to time. Being assertive is so difficult when you are down, your energy is missing, your body is flooded with stress hormones and your self esteem is at an all time low. This is the very reason there is not a drop of shame in asking someone you trust to support you and even advocate for you when you need it – “Can you come with me to the doctor/therapist? I am so scared”. 

I have now found a clinical psychologist who fits me and my particular difficulties and I’m moving forward.

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